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By Pema Chödrön
As Albert Einstein pointed out, the tragedy of experiencing ourselves as apart from everyone else is that this delusion becomes a prison. Sadder yet, we become increasingly unnerved at the possibility of freedom. When the barriers come down, we don’t know what to do. We need a bit more warning about what it feels like when the walls start tumbling down. We need to be told that fear and trembling accompany growing up, and that letting go takes courage. Finding the courage to go to the places that scare us cannot happen without compassionate inquiry into the workings of ego. So we ask ourselves, ”What do I do when I feel I can’t handle what’s going on? Where do I look for strength and in what do I place my trust?”
The Buddha taught that flexibility and openness bring strength and that running from groundlessness weakens us and brings pain. But do we understand that becoming familiar with the running away is the key? Openness doesn’t come from resisting our fears but from getting to know them well.
Rather than going after those walls and barriers with a sledgehammer, we pay attention to them. With gentleness and honesty, we move closer to those walls. We touch them and smell them and get to know them well. We begin a process of acknowledging our aversions and our cravings. We become familiar with the strategies and beliefs we use to build the walls: What are the stories I tell myself? What repels me and what attracts me? We start to get curious about what’s going on. Without calling what we see right or wrong, we simply look as objectively as we can. We can observe ourselves with humor, not getting overly serious, moralistic, or uptight about this investigation. Year after year, we train in remaining open and receptive to whatever arises. Slowly, very slowly, the cracks in the walls seem to widen and, as if by magic, bodhichitta is able to flow freely.
A teaching that supports us in this process of unblocking bodhichitta is that of the three lords of materialism. These are the three ways that we shield ourselves from this fluid, un-pin-downable world, three strategies we use to provide ourselves with the illusion of security. This teaching encourages us to become very familiar with these strategies of ego, to see clearly how we continue to seek comfort and ease in ways that only strengthen our fears. …
By Ven. Tenzin Chonyi (Dr. Diana Taylor)
I want freedom from suffering on my own terms. I would like the weather to be always temperate, and people likewise. I would like only food that I enjoy, never having to get up early for puja and being able to get top marks in a test without studying. My teacher would give me unlimited and undivided attention. My pride would never be dented, my depression would never be denied and my anger would never be challenged.
Yes, I want freedom from suffering, but I want it now and on my terms. Don’t throw Dharma at me. My ego knows all the correct answers and uses them to protect itself. I want complete freedom from the suffering of my ego, not freedom from my ego.
It was my ego that took refuge, renunciation and bodhichitta vows. It wanted to be bolstered against turbulence. It did not want to be challenged, and it definitely did not want to be annihilated. It was quite happy for anything outside its pride and self-seeking to be annihilated. It was happy to annihilate anger that showed me up as an imperfect Dharma student and nun, or attachments to things that other people wanted but I did not. Even when it looked at the teachings on emptiness, my ego managed to make this serve its own purposes. It could, for example, deny any responsibility because it was empty. It could also twist dependent arising by claiming that my suffering was dependent on all the factors around me.
I doubt if I am alone in this battle to preserve my ego. Of course, that is not what Dharma is about, but it is very easy to fool ourselves. To annihilate suffering, we necessarily annihilate the ego. We are not invalidating the self which arises in dependence on the five aggregates of body and mind. We are invalidating that ego which lives in a state of denial, and in which anything outside the barriers set up by pride is ignored or repressed.
When we are sick, or depressed, or red with anger, or green with jealousy, these are the moments when the self-serving ego is exposed. The self-serving ego has a strong aversion towards any Dharma practice which challenges its supremacy. We can catch ourselves out and plug the emotions. We can say that Dharma teachings are too vague or too hard, and avoid any responsibility. But if we want deeper healing, then we have to stop and investigate why our self-serving ego is so desperate to protect itself. This is an intensely personal exercise. It involves seeking out our unique karmic imprints. It means asking ourselves: “Why do I react in that way?” “What are the expectations of my self-serving ego?”
Bolstering a prideful ego is the opposite of Dharma practice. So if I really want to practice Dharma I have to destroy the very thing that I had thought was going to be protected by Dharma. This also implies a huge transformation in my perceptions of this “I”. By this I mean transforming the dependently-arising “I” to include all those parts of itself that the self-seeking ego has denied. It means such things as acknowledging that I prefer to be in control, or that my self-righteousness is invalid, or my self-abnegation is not really renunciation but a way of manipulating people to help me, or my being a stickler for rules is a way of masking my faults. It means dropping the stratagems of the self-seeking ego. It means understanding our own ways of practicing the eight worldly dharmas. It means painful self-realisation. It means becoming your own therapist. It means not quoting texts, but developing realizations about these texts. And it involves pain.
Then when we are prepared to let go our self-serving ego we being to understand the richness of the Dharma teachings for what they are. And when I get there, you can throw it all at me and I will be delighted.
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